Sunday, January 6, 2013

Orphans, Orphanage in children's movies and books?

If you are a member of the adoption triad you probably know of Disney's need to kill off a parent in every movie. We avoid any movies that I know have a negative adoption message.  

 I am more interested ( at the moment) in the use of casual use of orphan/orphanage dropped in movies, books etc...  How do you handle this?  

My son LOVES superheroes right now.  Loves!  One of the stories I read to him starts off with 'blah blah blah...didn't come from the best beginnings.  He and his brother were in an orphanage when they were little....'  Do I read this to him or skip over it?  I'm torn.   

Would he view this as empowering-knowing one of his beloved super hero's was adopted?  Superman and even Word Girl came to this planet to be saved from some disaster.  Hawkeye and his brother were in an orphanage.  Even Spidey is raised by his Aunt and Uncle.  Hmmmmm?  Thoughts?  

Thursday, September 6, 2012

Back to work

The bright side is that I got to be home with T nearly everyday for two years.  I am so thankful for that. It was rougher some days than others but I am really glad for that time.

The downside is that that is coming to an end next week.  It's so hard.  I can't believe.  Part of me just wants to curl up into a ball and cry.  I would do just about anything to stay home with him longer.  But I can't.  Financially it is just not an option.  Oh I Hate that!

I found a great care giver.  She is hispanic and most of the kids in her care are african american. I took him today for a trial run (mostly for me).  Cried as soon as I left (me not him).  T had a good time today playing with his new friends.  He told me "I did so much stuff.  I had so much fun". I'm glad he did well but Yep-still hate it.

Tuesday, September 4, 2012

Tesfa Day

It's been two years since T came home TWO YEARS!  I can hardly believe it.  Since Joel was home on Labor Day we decided to head to Dayton to the Airforce Museum to celebrate Tesfa day.

  I thought it would be fun to photograph Lovie and see how he changes over the next year too. 

So grateful that I get to be his Mommy.  

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Hello Rock Bottom-I hadn't missed you.

Ok maybe not rock bottom but damn what a slap in the face.  Got a letter telling me that my medical claim is probably going to be denied even though i have two years of journal details to show the difficulty I've had with this injury.  Court next week-probably a losing battle.

Paypal still hasn't explained where my missing money is and won't for ...oh yeah same day I go to court  I can call them to see if they found my money yet.

And to top it off I was really hoping for a call from another perspective employer or at least an official offer from the first.  Nada.

Feeling a little defeated.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Feeling Stuck

I feel so stuck right now.  I'm interviewing today for a job that provides an awesome service and is really responsible for helping people.  The hours are good (no nights-no weekends) but the pay will be mediocre.

Or do I try something totally different?  Go for broke (which is kinda a laughable analogy)?  Hours would be long but pay has much greater potential.

If I didn't have a doodle I would do the second.  I am willing to work my butt off but the thought of less and less time with T breaks my heart.

On the flip side I have seen what financial stress does to a family and that is also not good.  My parents are a mess.  Marriage in trouble and a lot of it is due to finances and bad planning.  I love my parents-really i do.  But I dont want to end up like them.

My in-laws planned very well with average (or below average) salaries.  My MIL works for a non-profit and doesn't make much at all.  My FIL is a retired teacher.  So not exactly the corporate exec types rolling in the dough.  BUT they have put money away, planned for retirement, paid for the kids college and are still able to help us when we are in a pinch.  That's the kind of parents I want us to be.  My son doesn't need to have everything but he does deserve our help with school, weddings and even his kids when he needs it.  And if he doesn't need our help--then that's just more money for Joel and I to retire with and travel the world with.

Being a grown up sucks!  I really want someone else to tell me what to do (at least about this decision).

Friday, August 24, 2012


So I just called to schedule a job interview for Monday.  I'm teary and shaking a little.  Not nervous about the interview at all.  Nervous because I'm pretty sure I'll get the job--which is good. However, the thought of putting T into daycare sucks! As someone who has worked in child care for years I am used to telling parents "It's harder on you then it is on them".  Now I guess I need someone to tell me that.

Saturday, August 18, 2012

Divine Intervention

when people say that adoption is "meant to be" a get a little sick to my stomach.  Why?  Why would God do something so horrible just to bless me with my son.  I am blessed to have him and I don't understand for the life of me why I got so lucky.

Want to read a great article written by an adoptee on this subject? Land of Gazillion Adoptees Read Here