Monday, August 27, 2012

Feeling Stuck

I feel so stuck right now.  I'm interviewing today for a job that provides an awesome service and is really responsible for helping people.  The hours are good (no nights-no weekends) but the pay will be mediocre.

Or do I try something totally different?  Go for broke (which is kinda a laughable analogy)?  Hours would be long but pay has much greater potential.

If I didn't have a doodle I would do the second.  I am willing to work my butt off but the thought of less and less time with T breaks my heart.

On the flip side I have seen what financial stress does to a family and that is also not good.  My parents are a mess.  Marriage in trouble and a lot of it is due to finances and bad planning.  I love my parents-really i do.  But I dont want to end up like them.

My in-laws planned very well with average (or below average) salaries.  My MIL works for a non-profit and doesn't make much at all.  My FIL is a retired teacher.  So not exactly the corporate exec types rolling in the dough.  BUT they have put money away, planned for retirement, paid for the kids college and are still able to help us when we are in a pinch.  That's the kind of parents I want us to be.  My son doesn't need to have everything but he does deserve our help with school, weddings and even his kids when he needs it.  And if he doesn't need our help--then that's just more money for Joel and I to retire with and travel the world with.

Being a grown up sucks!  I really want someone else to tell me what to do (at least about this decision).


1 comment:

jessica said...

I'd say go for the first job. Although the pay would be mediocre, you could set up a plan to make it work out. Time with your little guy is so important and it goes by so quickly, as you know. If you are working long hours, you may not be stressing financially but you could be stressing just the same (just from not being able to spend the time you'd like with your family). Just my 2 cents. :)

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